Pregnant Expat in an Unwelcoming City

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I’m trying to find the words to tell you the whole story — as I’m sitting in my bed, and I can feel my now 28-week-old daughter inside me kicking. This is my second pregnancy. This week while I’m writing this article, is a year since I found out that I was pregnant for the first time — and, a year since I lost that first baby.

When the Clock Strikes Baby (and No Partner’s in Sight)

nsfmg not safe for mom group blog post When the Clock Strikes Baby (and No Partner’s in Sight)

Biological clocks are a real thing — for men as well as for women, of course. It’s just when that clock starts ticking that’s pretty individual. I don’t have a memory of a time when I didn’t adore babies; of both the animal, and human kind. Anything “baby” that needed my help, I’d be there for it. I am writing this article in my head thinking ‘don’t sound like a crazy baby lady’, but I’m finding it hard to avoid that. We live in a culture where wanting a baby conjures up these images of desperate, loony-eyed mid-thirties women, drooling over babies in the mall, before they have to go back for their post-lunch work meetings. For the record: I don’t drool over babies in the mall. I say “hi”, in a very dignified voice, and keep all saliva inside my own mouth, thankyouverymuch. I would like to have a go at whose idea it was to label women who have an active interest in fertility ‘crazy’. My wild guess? Perhaps a few men had some say in this notion. Although they are rare, you do find boys who have always wanted to be dads, and even played with dolls when they were younger. Which, for the record, I do think is a healthy pastime for the future modern involved fathers of this world.

Mom Group Quotes of the Week

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We tackle a lot of big, hairy topics on NSFMG, and one of the places where we feel the most free to talk about how we really feel,

Abortion After Motherhood

nsfmg not safe for mom group blog post Abortion After Motherhood

I’ve always been pro-choice, but felt pretty adamantly that abortion was a “last resort” —  it was that thing you do when you have no money, no partner, no means to raise a child —

Pregnancy and Body Dysmorphia

nsfmg not safe for mom group blog post Pregnancy and Body Dysmorphia

I was absolutely terrified of becoming pregnant — not because of the enormous responsibility of carrying a life inside of me, nor was it out of the fear of labor and delivery.